Holy Matrimony

“At the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female. ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Mark 10:6-9

Congratulations on your engagement!

The Bible describes God’s plan for marriage as a grace for a happy life and sign of Christ’s faithful and fruitful love for his Bride, the Church. We at Our Lady of Mercy are excited for you to grow in this love and understanding.

This is one of the most exciting (and hectic) seasons in your life. Let us help you get ready for more than just the wedding day.

Please refer to our Marriage Preparation Guidebook as well as the Marriage Preparation Steps to assist you during this important time of your life.


Marriage Preparation Guidebook

Marriage Preparation Steps

Complete General Wedding Information

Please contact the Parish Secretary, Diane Reiter at (630) 851-3444 to provide general information. A priest will then call the couple back to set up a meeting.

Initial Meeting

Schedule meeting with Priest

Priest or Deacon will determine Freedom to Marry then wedding date can be confirmed.

Discuss marriage preparation process.

Discuss preparation fees and required documentation.

Receive wedding information packet.

Couples or their parents who are consistently contributing to Our Lady of Mercy are required to pay a $250 stipend to secure the requested wedding date. Couples or their parents who are not consistently contributing to Our Lady of Mercy are required to pay a $500 stipend to secure the requested wedding date.

Step 1

Complete Pre-Marriage Inventory

You will receive an email from OLM’s Sponsor Couple Coordinator that will include the inventory link from FOCCUS.

The inventory is a valuable tool for identifying strengths and weaknesses within a couple’s relationship.

Review of the FOCCUS Survey will be arranged by a Sponsor Couple for meeting times that are mutually convenient.

Step 2

Complete Engaged Encounter Weekend

Couples are given an opportunity to step away for their hectic schedule to focus on each other and the time the relationship deserves. At the end of the weekend you will be provided with a certificate to bring to the church office and put in the wedding file.

Step 3

Attend a Natural Family Planning Course

Every engaged couple is required to attend a course on Natural Family Planning (NFP). In NFP couples are taught to understand and live God’s design for married love.  NFP methods promote a holistic approach to family planning which both respects procreation and has the potential to deepen the intimacy of husband and wife. At the end of the session a certificate will be provided that must be brought to the church office and kept in the wedding file.

Step 4

Beloved on Formed.org

More than a union based on romantic love or mutual fulfillment, marriage goes back to the very essence of what it is to be human – and reflects a design placed in our hearts by God himself. Beloved explores the spiritual and eternal reality behind “I Do.” Beautifully filmed and featuring acclaimed marriage experts, Beloved speaks to the very heart of every husband and wife, bringing sacramental truth and God-infused love into the everyday challenges of married life. Beloved: Mystery & Meaning of Marriage includes six inspiring and informative sessions.

Step 5

Contact (Priest or Deacon) who will preside at your Celebration of Marriage

If the Marriage celebration will occur at OLM, call (630) 851-3444. If the celebration is at another location or will be presided by someone outside of OLM, then the couple must arrange for a meeting directly.

Contact within six months of wedding date to finish necessary paperwork.

Additional meetings are determined on a case-by-case basis.

The planning of the liturgy will be completed and turned in to the church at least four weeks prior to the wedding.

Step 6

Sacrament of Reconciliation

As the marriage date approaches, couples are highly encouraged to prepare for the Sacrament of Marriage by celebrating the Sacrament of Reconciliation.

The Sacrament of Reconciliation is available every Saturday at 3 p.m. or by appointment with the priest.

It is recommended the couples individually receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation from the priest who will preside at the wedding.

Final Meeting


Couples will be contacted by the Wedding Coordinator when they are within 6 months of their wedding date. Arrangements will be made to schedule a date to meet at the church to prepare and rehearse for the wedding.